I had an interesting conversation with a co-worker the other day, which really started me thinking. I drove him home as his husband was still at work. He is on the frontline team, we have different lunch times and therefore we don’t often get much of a chance to just chat. He got in my car and stated I don’t know how you do it. This caught me a bit off guard, and I questioned what he was referring to. His response - your car is so clean. I chuckled and stated that I didn’t think it was very clean with the winter mess.
It was Valentine’s Day as well. He continued on to say it amazes him how busy I am and I don’t seem to let anything drop, and I had even provided a valentines treat for my co-workers. He explained he does not see how I do it as he struggles with just keeping up with his husbands young adult daughter and his job, and doesn’t seem to fit anything else in. He sees my busy calendar each day, the relationships I build at work, hears me talk about my family and my kung fu, and I still seem to have time to plan events at work, and make sure everyone is thought of. I chuckled again and told him he was making me sound like a superhero, which I was not. He asked me how I do it.
I tried to answer him, but instead advised I wasn’t sure, I just do it. I often feel there is a fine line between living mastery and high performing mediocrity, if that is a thing? I am busy there is no doubt. I don’t like to let anyone down, people depend on me. Always trying to be my best at being the wife, mother, grandmother, a martial artist, and most tenured person at my branch, leader, trainer, confidant, and so on. And then carve some time for me. Roughly 18 hours each day to fit everything in, working 10 - 12 of those hoiurs 5 days a week most weeks.
Make the best of my time. Prioritize. Do I drop the ball, or a few of them? Absolutely. But I try not to drop the important ones, if that makes sense. There is deadlines, and those must prioritize. Family, prioritize. Kung fu, prioritize. The rest falls into place. I’m working on the mindset of just get it done. Don’t leave it for later, or tomorrow. This is helping my time management actually, as tomorrow will bring enough to do.
I told my co-worker we would plan some time to sit and chat. He was really reaching out for some help. He is feeling overwhelmed, and maybe in some small way I can help. This will be a priority as well. I do not see myself as doing anything special, I am living my life and trying to the best I can. This conversation caught me off guard for a couple of reasons.
1. I never realized what I do in a normal day was noticed by him, or anyone for that matter.
2. I was honored that he reached out, and respected his openness to share with me.
Push ups- 1525
Sit ups and equivalent time with plank - and 1575
Form reps - Hand 15 Weapon 7
AOK’s - 71
Sparring (modified) - 25
KM’s - 86
Blogs - 3