I made a comment after our meeting on Thursday, and I feel I need to clarify a bit and provide some perspective from my view. I had stated how I felt about a comment provided after one of my blogs and how I didn’t feel great about it. In no way did I mean for that to sound contradictory to the benefits and importance of blogging. Our blogs are our story, our journey, our thoughts and feelings, as they are meant to be. I certainly feel blogging is one of our requirements that provide a very important aspect of our training and our journey. Sometimes when I blog I feel what I’m saying may not come across as intended. I blogged about this yesterday as well. When we are provided feedback, it is always meant to help, always meant to further us in our training in a positive way. I’ve never been involved in a group, or team where our instructors are so invested in their students. I struggle with blogging, and that is why it is so important that I do blog. Feedback with all of our training, including our blogs is meant only to help us progress. I think it can be compared to getting feedback with a technique or stance to help us evolve or better understand something, and maybe with a correction to help. It is important to not let our egos lead our thoughts and feelings about this. My ego got the better of me in this situation at the time.
I’m an emotional person, and sometimes I feel this is one of the best parts of me, and sometimes not so much (like my black belt speech lol) Don’t get me wrong, I am proud of my speech, and it was written from the heart, I just wish I could have gotten through it a little smoother. I wish that I could reign in my emotions at times. It is also because of this that blogging is difficult for me. When something is hard, we tend to learn more from it.
ush ups- 7820
Sit ups - 7900
Form reps - Hand 105, weapon 90
AOK’s - 521
Sparring (modified) - 75
KM’s - 333
Blogs - 14
But methinks you are skirting around the issue here. The issue is that your emotional response to private feedback was to use the feedback as an excuse to eliminate accountability. When I tell a student that their horse stance is not deep enough, I never expect the student to stop practicing their horse stance because they do not like feedback.
ReplyDeleteNotice my avoidance of using the term 'negative' feedback. In reality there is no such thing as negative feedback for a person on a mastery journey. Feedback, in all its forms, presents opportunity. Opportunity to improve and evolve.
I totally understand your emotional response, hence why that feedback was handled privately - to minimize the emotional trigger. But your response, nevertheless, was to withdraw and take the opportunity to eliminate more accountability and, ironically, more help (feedback). This is why mediocrity prevails. Mediocrity thrives without accountability.